Tuxedos: a guide for Fathers of LDS Brides

TUXEDO RENTALS (OR PURCHASE): A quick checklist:

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  • Tuxedo Jacket
  • Tuxedo Pants
  • Shirt
  • Vest or Cummerbund
  • Shoes
  • Socks
  • Tie
  • Cufflinks

Tuxedo Jacket

Tuxedo jackets come in many styles ranging from a single-breasted one button to double breasted six buttons with tails. You can ask the advice of the tux salesman, but checking the fit of the tux jacket and the tux pants (with the jacket off) in the mirror in the tux shop is always advised. A classic single-breasted suit is never wrong unless the event calls for top hat and tails. Just kidding- tails are reserved for the most formal wedding and other very formal occasions.

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Another thing you should consider is which style best compliments your figure. The rule of thumb is a double-breasted jacket can compliment a tall man’s figure, while shorter men look better in a single-breasted jacket. When in doubt pick the best style for YOU- after all, as Father of the Bride, you don’t have to match the groom- but your daughter may request it. And you may already own a tux. If so, and if the tux is an appropriate color, work with that. But remember, all the Tuxedo’s should be the same color, usually black – no blue tuxedos please (remember Steve Martin’s character, “Mr. Banks” as the FOB in the film “Father of Bride?”) And note, your daughter may want you to use the bridal colors as accents in the ties, cummerbunds or vests to bring the look of the wedding together.

Tuxedo Pants

Your tuxedo pants must match the tuxedo style, and the color and fabric that you have selected for the jacket. Formal tuxedo pants have a traditional racing stripe down the leg, usually made of silk. There may be an option on the tux pants with pleats or with no pleats.

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Tuxedo Shirt

Tuxedo shirts come in many styles, with pleats and without. There are several types of collars available. Make sure that you get the same style as the groom, the father of the groom and the groomsmen. Most tux shirts come with French cuffs (requiring cufflinks) and they have studs instead of buttons on the shirt. If you have questions about any of this, ask the sales people at the tux shop; they should help you.

FYI – you can’t go wrong with white, pleated, French cuffs, with a lay down collar.

Tuxedo Vest or Cummerbund

Here is your chance to make a personal statement. To most affairs, it is acceptable to pair a tie with a cummerbund or vest. A cummerbund is that large oversized silk belt-looking thing that is worn around the waist over the top of the tux pants and the bottom of the tux shirt. You can select the color and style of your choice in this area, black is always safe and traditional. However, your daughter may ask you and the men in the wedding party to coordinate on color of the vest, cummerbund, or tie. This way you, the groom, the groom’s father, the best man, and the groomsmen would have splash of color that would accent and tie in with the bridal colors.

Men often ask the question: “Which way do the cummerbunds pleats face: Up or Down?” The correct answer is the cummerbund’s pleats always face UP. And please note, if you have decided on a Vest, you will Not wear a cummerbund with the vest.

♥ Dr. Howard Edward Haller
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